🤝 How Dads Can Support Their Partner Postpartum: A Science-Based Guide
The days and weeks after childbirth can be joyful, exhausting and emotionally overwhelming. While most of the focus is often on new mothers, dads are navigating their own challenges. Research from across the UK, Denmark, Canada, and Australia shows one clear thing: when fathers are active and supported, families thrive.
Here’s how you can be the support system your partner needs—right from day one.
1. Understand the Mental Health Load
In the UK, around 10% of new fathers experience postnatal depression or anxiety, according to NHS data.
Danish research reveals that up to 25% of fathers show signs of clinical depression within the first six months after birth.
Global reviews show 5–10% of fathers face depression, with up to 15% struggling with anxiety.
When left untreated, paternal depression can impact the mother's mental health and child development.
Lesson: Your mental wellbeing matters too. If you're struggling, you're not alone—and you deserve support.
2. Recognise Her Needs and Speak Up
NHS perinatal mental health guidelines encourage dads to be part of care plans and check-ins.
In Canada and Australia, integrated mental health care now includes partners as standard practice.
Dads who stay emotionally present and involved in early postpartum care reduce stress and aid maternal recovery.
3. Own the Daily Routine
Take over nighttime nappy changes, bottle feeds (if not breastfeeding obviously), and burping.
Keep the household running: laundry, meals, scheduling appointments.
Encourage and support skin-to-skin bonding between you and your baby—proven to reduce infant stress and aid maternal breastfeeding success.
4. Model Equal Parenting
Denmark leads with 80% of dads attending prenatal and early parenting classes.
In the UK, Shared Parental Leave is available, but underused. By taking it, you're showing that care is a team effort.
Australian studies show that co-parenting leads to higher relationship satisfaction and lower long-term stress for both parents.
5. Build a Safe Emotional Space
Check in with your partner emotionally: ask how she’s feeling, not just physically but mentally.
Share your own struggles: honesty reduces shame and deepens trust.
Seek help if you need it. Counselling, dad support groups, and mindfulness apps like Headspace or Dad AF can make a huge difference.
📣 Why This Guide Matters
Fatherhood isn’t just a role. It’s a relationship built in small moments, deep presence, and quiet sacrifices. By showing up every day—especially during the postpartum phase—you’re shaping your child’s first experiences of trust and safety.
You’re not just helping. You’re parenting on purpose.
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